Dates: A home for your most promising conversations

There’s never been a better time to reset and prioritize what matters most. Or in this case, who matters most. That’s why we’ve launched Dates: a first-of-its-kind feature that provides clarity and focus by moving members’ most important connections to a dedicated space within the app.  

Here’s how it works:

When you and a member reach a promising point in a conversation, we’ll ask if you’re ready to take the next step via an in-app prompt. If you both say yes, you’ll be moved to Dates.

Once a conversation moves to Dates, you’ll not only have a better idea of how that member feels about you – buh-bye, guessing games – but you’ll be able to better focus on that conversation – adios, cluttered inbox!

This new section also allows you to access unlimited video chat and discover each other’s first date preferences. From social distancing practices to favorite restaurants, you’ll have all the personal information you need to plan an actual date. Because after all, isn’t that what you came here for?

 Skip playing games and get to the good stuff faster with Dates.

Skip the small talk with #RealTalk

A lot has changed in 2020, and the way singles are connecting is no exception. Today, singles are exchanging 40% more messages compared to last year, but how often they’re talking is not the only change we’ve noticed.

Singles are now starting more meaningful conversations – covering topics like health, politics, religion, and sex and family  early on in the game. With this trend in mind, we recently launched #RealTalk: questions designed to help our members skip the boring banter and spark more meaningful conversations, helping singles get to know one another on a deeper level. That’s what they want, after all. And we have the numbers to prove it.

According to a recent survey of over 5,000 Match users:

  • 81% want to know more about a potential match’s stance on deeper topics before they can determine their potential 
  • 87% are more likely to move things forward after talking about more substantial topics
  • 61% would like support in moving from small talk to deeper conversations on a dating app

“All of a sudden, small talk just seems so insignificant,” says Rachel DeAlto, Chief Dating Expert at Match. “The world is facing real issues between the pandemic, social justice movements, and the election. Daters have recognized that this more significant and almost heavy energy is affecting every conversation. It doesn’t mean you can’t start with the weather or debating pour over versus drip coffee, but you won’t stay there long.”

Ready to get real? Add the latest Trending Topic to your profile and see where your next conversation takes you.

Everything you need to know about Vibe Check

Tried Vibe Check yet? Our latest video chat feature recently launched, fueling members’ cravings to chat and see someone live right in the app. Learn the ins and outs of how it works: 

Who can I Vibe Check with?

You can Vibe Check with any eligible Match member in the app and on desktop. To be eligible, a member simply needs to accept the community terms and conditions. You also must have each sent a message or a like to each other. 

Where can I find Vibe Check within the app?

You can find the feature in your message view from Inbox. Look for the black video icon at the bottom left corner, next to the message bar. 

Is Vibe Check free?

Yes! We know everyone is missing out on social interactions right now, so we’ve made this feature free for all Match members. All you have to do is be in a conversation with someone.

How do you initiate Vibe Check?

It’s easy! All you have to do is tap on the video icon in your message view with another member.

Will Vibe Check be offered after stay-at-home orders are lifted? 

Yes! While this feature is great for staying connected while social distancing, there are other benefits to initiating a Vibe Check. For example, before meeting up with someone in person. We know going on an in-person date requires time, money and effort. A quick Vibe Check is a great way to assure you click before making plans to meet face-to-face. 

Is there a time limit on how long you can Vibe Check with someone?

Nope, no time limit! Feel free to chat as long or as little as you feel comfortable. 

Can you deny a Vibe Check?

Absolutely. It works just like a phone call. You can accept or decline any incoming Vibe Check. 

Is Vibe Check available on the Match app?

Vibe Check is available on iOS and Android, as well as desktop. 

Can I Vibe Check more than once with the same person?

Absolutely! You can Vibe Check as many times as you want with someone. In fact, we think this is a great (and safe) way to get to know someone before exchanging phone numbers or meeting in person. 

What if I experience something inappropriate during a Vibe Check call? What do I do?

We hope that our members are respectful towards one another and follow the rules, but we know things can happen. If you do experience any inappropriate behavior, there are two ways to report it:  

  • You can tap on the Report button on the bottom left hand corner of the call screen. This will immediately end the call and block the user from being able to see or contact you. You’ll then be prompted to provide details that will be sent directly to our Care team. 
  • After the call, you can go to the member’s profile, tap on the three dots at the top right and select “Report.” You’ll then be prompted to provide details that will be sent directly to our Care team. 

I don’t want just anyone on Match to be able to video chat with me. Can I opt out?

It’s important to note that the only members allowed to video chat with you are ones you’ve previously matched with (i.e. you’ve both exchanged likes and/or messages). So rest assured you won’t be getting Vibe Checks from any random faces. If you’re still not interested in video chatting with your matches, we’ll be allowing you to opt out of the feature entirely in the next few weeks. Stay tuned! 

So what are you waiting for? Now that you’ve got all the details, it’s time to get vibing! 

Vibe Check is available on desktop and the Match app. Make sure you have the latest version of the app for your iOS or Android device. 

Introducing Vibe Check: Video date on the Match app

Missing that face-to-face connection during social distancing? You know…the smiles, smirks, and let’s not forget, the laughter. Swap out your emojis and LOLs for actual laughs when you try Vibe Check: our new video feature that lets you chat and see someone live right on Match.  

How it works:

Once you’ve matched and started a conversation with someone, a black video icon will appear at the top right of your messages. After agreeing to the terms and conditions, you’ll be able to request a Vibe Check. The other member can either join right away or decline the request if it’s not a good time. Be sure to enable push notifications in order to receive Vibe Check invites.

During the Vibe Check, you can video chat as long as you want, and hang up whenever you’d like.

Vibe Safe

All the communication is done through Match, so you can see if your personalities vibe before exchanging phone numbers or other personal information.

If a member breaks any of our rules during the Vibe Check (i.e. nudity, harassment, violence, etc.), you can report them immediately. We’ll then block that user from being able to contact you, and ask you to provide some details for customer care.

So, what are you waiting for? Take your dating life out of quarantine by trying Vibe Check today.  

Vibe Check is available on desktop and the Match app. Make sure you have the latest version of the app for your iOS or Android device. 

Tips from a Long-Distance Relationship Survivor

By: Stefnie Howley

COVID-19 has caused havoc in every aspect of life, and relationships are no exception. While some couples are getting used to being with their partner 24/7 (buh-bye privacy!), others are adjusting to the exact opposite.

As a Certified Dating Expert at Match, I can provide lots of advice on dealing with separation from a significant other. But my best tips come from firsthand experience.

When I first met my husband, he was in the Navy and I was working for a company that had me traveling a minimum of 16 days every month. For the first two years, we spent more time apart than together. Here’s what I learned:

1. Communication is key. It may sound cliché, but communication is now more important than ever. Lucky for you, there are also more ways to communicate than ever. In addition to the good ole-fashioned call, email and text, you can send videos and photos, or just hop on FaceTime or Skype.

Another important note: Don’t jump to conclusions if the person doesn’t respond right away, or in the way you were expecting. This is where knowing your partner’s communication style can also help. Some have no trouble spilling their heart via text, while others need to be face-to-face to feel comfortable.

2. Set expectations. Speaking of communication, it’s important to be clear on your expectations for it. Maybe you establish that one of you always calls or texts before bed, or first thing in the morning. Or maybe you establish a system where if you call two times in a row, it’s an emergency. Whatever it is, don’t make it a guessing game.

3. Know each other’s love language. Heard of the 5 Love Languages? If not, this would be a fun quiz for you and your partner to do together. Knowing whether someone craves words of affirmation, gifts or acts of service is an easy way to ensure you’re showing the love they’re looking for from far away.  

4. Get creative. Despite your current distance, there are still plenty of ways to feel connected. And we’re not just talking about hopping on FaceTime. Buy the same puzzle and have a race to see who can finish first. Try a new recipe and have a cook-off in your respective kitchens. Exchange playlists to keep each other company. You can even go old school by sending a handwritten card or letter. Whatever you do, don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone a bit.

Need more tips, or have a specific question about #DatingWhileDistancing? Ask one of our certified Dating Experts, and see what other advice they’re sharing with fellow singles today.

Upgrade Your Virtual Dates

By: Katie Wilson

Struggling to find conversation starters now that, “what are you up to this weekend?” is a no-go? We don’t blame you. Dating while distancing is going to require you to rethink your go-to lines and your upcoming date plans. But fear not!

We’ve spent the last week talking to singles to get the inside scoop on what’s working and what’s not. The key to virtual dating is keeping momentum going and getting creative. See below for a list of conversation tips and virtual date ideas that will set you apart from the rest.

Conversation Tips:

  • Keep it positive. We know it’s tempting given the state of the world right now, but no need to dwell on heavy or negative topics right out the gate.
  • Stay away from politics. Everyone is feeling especially politically charged right now, and while politics are important, we recommend broaching it after you’ve established a connection.
  • Come up with fresh conversation starters in advance. Everyone will naturally have less to talk about due to staying in, so take initiative and come prepared with some fresh conversation topics. Favorite thing about staying in, best new show on Netflix, new favorite recipe…it’s all fair game!  

Virtual Dating Ideas:

  • Download an interactive game and play together. Winner buys dinner on your next IRL date?
  • Share your favorite things. Grab a few of your favorite items from around your house and share why you love them so much. (Pssst…this might be the time to leave your favorite stuffed animal from childhood in the box.)
  • Paint and wine night. Agree on a subject to paint, crack open a bottle of wine and get to work. Prepare for spilled paint and lots of laughs.
  • Introduce one another to your respective pets. Because who doesn’t want to show off their favorite furry friend?
  • Compare travel bucket lists. Bonus points if you trade photos of some of the places on your list.
  • Share a tour of your home. If you feel comfortable, this is the perfect time to show off that space you’ve been cleaning and organizing while stuck inside.  
  • Go on a virtual tour of a zoo together. No seriously, these exist!
  • Take a virtual yoga class together. Yes, these exist too. And those who sweat together, stay together, right?

Got a specific question about #DatingWhileDistancing? Ask one of our certified Dating Experts, and see what other advice they’re sharing with fellow singles today.

10 Tips for Mastering Video Dates

By: Bela Gandhi, Dating Expert & Smart Dating Academy Founder

The scare of COVID-19 has taken over the planet and quickly changed our everyday routines. Unfortunately, dating isn’t an exception. While it’s evident that going out for dinner and a movie is currently out of the question, there’s a bright side. You can now date more, date better and cheaper than ever!

Here are 10 simple steps: 

1) Embrace a virtual date: Forget about the in-person first dates! Skyping, FaceTime, Zoom and video platforms have quickly become the “new normal.”

2) Choose the right backdrop: Pile of dirty clothes? Make sure those are out of the frame. Just like the ambiance of a restaurant can set the tone of a date, so can where you sit in your house. Choose a space that’s clean, well-decorated and, most importantly, well-lit.

3) Dress accordingly: Get ready just like you would for an actual date. Ladies, get out of the yoga clothes and put your berry lip on. Guys, grab a comb and clean shirt. Yup, I said it.

4) Don’t forget to do a video and sound check: This is a great way to avoid any technical difficulties during the actual date. It also allows you to see what you’ll look like in the camera and test out your facial expressions. (No RBF!) 

5) Get something to sip on: Make your favorite drink – whether it’s a cocktail, mocktail or tea – so it feels like a real date. It will also give you something to do with your hands if you feel nervous.

6) Prepare a few questions: Having great questions to ask in your back pocket is always a good idea, whether you’re meeting online or in person. 

7) Stay positive: It might be tempting to discuss the gloom and doom that’s going on around us, but don’t let this dominate the conversation. You want the other person to walk away feeling happy and excited, not like they just watched a depressing news segment. 

8) Timing is everything: Remember that a successful FaceTime can be as little as 20-30 minutes. So don’t feel you have to stay on the phone all night in order to call it a success.

9) Schedule another virtual date: If all goes well, don’t be afraid to tell them you’d like to “meet” again. You can stick to another easy FaceTime, or plan an activity, like cooking via Skype. 

10) Plan for the future: You’re not going to be stuck at home forever. Keep each other excited by discussing what activities or restaurants you’d like to enjoy together when you can finally meet in person.

Use this extra time at home to your advantage – put yourself out there and open your mind the possibility of making a real connection. I think that’s something we all need right now. If you have additional questions, visit Dating While Distancing or call our free hotline at 1-888-302-6224.  If you’d like to work with Bela at Smart Dating Academy, and/or download their FREE guide called “7 Clues You’re Dating a Narcissist” go to www.smartdatingacademy.com.  This will ensure you fix your picker while you date!  Or follow them on IG @smartdatingacademy. 

Dating While Distancing

Rachel DeAlto, Chief Dating Expert

The world has changed seemingly overnight and with social distancing and isolation being the new normal, singles have been posing the question – do I still try and date?

Yes! 100%. We humans have a biological desire and need for companionship. Even a global pandemic doesn’t stop that. The trick is to look at dating differently. We are kicking off a new blog series, Dating While Distancing, to support singles during this time. We will talk to success couples who made long distance work and dating experts talking to daters every day about their struggles sharing tips and tricks to make virtual dating fun and effective. Just as students are now being required to look at learning in a new way, singles need to rethink how they date.

How do we do that? I have some ideas.

  1. Be more mindful with your profile. We talk about your profile a lot, but I know most daters just want to get rolling and end up not really paying much attention to what they write. Heck, half the time people barely write anything at all. Turns out, when you can’t really go anywhere, you have plenty of time go through your profile! Get intentional about who you are looking for and what you offer. Take some new pics outdoors (and 6ft away from anyone else). Review your profile from the perspective of your ideal partner – does anything strike you as off putting?
  2. Bringing courtship back. If people can fall in love blindly in a pod, you can connect with someone through screens until you can meet in person. I’ve always been a proponent of getting offline as soon as everyone feels comfortable, but that just isn’t feasible right now – so we pivot! Create coffee dates and happy hours over Facetime or Zoom. Talk on the phone. Send funny memes. Ask questions to really get to know each other. While the physical is important, real relationships are built on a foundation of emotional intimacy, and that has not been cancelled!
  3. Get creative with conversations. One of the benefits of being behind a screen is that some conversations are actually less awkward! One of my favorite list of questions are the well-known “36 Questions to Fall in Love.” You don’t have to go through the entire list with every potential suitor (uh, that’s a LOT of love), but pick and choose some as a conversation starter (or propeller). They range from fun to deep, but all are great for getting to know someone.
  4. Don’t overdo the convos though. In “normal” life we have a lot going on! You have work to go to, the gym, events, etc. Now? Not so much. That does not mean it’s a good idea to spend every waking moment talking to your new paramour. You can still get out of conversations by having to go do something, ie. Walk the dog, feed a kid, call your boss, workout. Limit initial video dates to 45 minutes to an hour. Don’t text nonstop all day. Leave some room for mystery.
  5. Get ready for video. These are still first dates! Even if they are virtual. Put yourself together (at least from the waist up) as if you are going on an in person first date. Find somewhere in your space with a clean background (no one needs to see you haven’t been keeping up with your laundry) and good lighting. Position the camera at least 2 feet away if you can (you can always prop your phone on something and find a flattering angle before you start.

We at Match are here for you as we all learn to navigate a new path. Have questions? Let us know!

The New Dating Mine Field: Politics

Dr. Helen Fisher

We are walking billboards of who we are—advertising our “mate value” with every word and deed we reveal to a potential romantic partner.  And these days, Singles want to know more about you than just your favorite tune, movie or exercise routine:  they want to know your politics.  Political tribalism is seeping into the dating scene. 

          Since 2010, Match has conducted an annual national poll of single Americas known as Singles In America.   Yearly, we ask some 200 questions to a sample of 5,000+ Singles in a representative sample of Singles Included are those aged 18 to 71+, of every region and every major ethnic group and sexual orientation.  We looked at our results over the past five years, we found a wealth of data on how Singles are navigating the great divide: Republicans versus Democrats. 

Lines are being drawn. 

In 2015, 78% of singles said they would date someone across the political aisle.  This reduced to 72% in 2017; then plummeted to 52% in 2019—a 26% decrease in political tolerance since Trump was elected.  Moreover, 24% of Singles want to know your political views before the first date; and 98% want to know your political leanings before things get serious. 

Political apathy is declining

Where 84% of singles in 2017 would date someone who had no opinion on key issues, in 2019 72% would date someone with no opinions—a 12% reduction in tolerance.   Moreover, 85% of singles in 2017 would date someone who was not registered to vote, while only 68% in 2019 would date someone who didn’t vote—a 17% decline.  Singles want to talk politics too—98% of them, to be exact.  And, interestingly, 49% want a partner who will discuss both sides. 

Today’s Singles are practicing political civility 

In 2017, 45% of our unattached said they would try to understand those with differing political perspectives; 40% would politely disagree; and 26% would just change the subject. 

Here’s the good news:  36% of singles report that, in their past, they had fallen madly in love with someone with very different political views.  And 73% of these would do it again!  I’m not surprised.  My colleagues and I have put dozens of lovers into the brain scanner (using fMRI), and these experiments clearly show that happy partners are able to overlook the negative aspects of their beloved to focus on the positive: what’s known as “positive illusions.”  Love beats politics in the brain.  Chaucer got it right: “Love is blind.”

Passion & Politics: Match Expands Profiles to Elevate the 2020 Conversation

Politics, like love, is far from black and white. And with today’s political landscape, singles are now more focused than ever on finding someone who shares their similar view of the world. In fact, we found that singles are 26% less likely to date across party lines than before the 2016 election.

With this in mind, we’ve rolled out two new profile updates designed to help singles better identify their political affiliation and highlight the issues that matter most to them. After all, 98% of singles want a partner who will talk politics (2019 Singles in America), so here’s how we’re helping to start the conversation: 

  • More labels to choose from: Members can now select from one of nine political view options for their profile, including six new choices not previously available. From “apolitical” or “independent” to “moderate” or “fiscally conservative, socially liberal,” singles are encouraged to pick the modern viewpoint they most identify with.
  • Issues that matter: A new open-ended question also allows members to share the specific political issues they’re most passionate about. After all, when singles look at someone’s top social issues rather than their party, they’re more likely to find common ground for fostering a romantic connection.Spoiler alert: one in three singles have been in love with someone with different views on social issues, and a whopping majority (73%) would do it again.

Ready to share your stance? Edit your profile to include the views and issues that speak to you.