Dates: A home for your most promising conversations

There’s never been a better time to reset and prioritize what matters most. Or in this case, who matters most. That’s why we’ve launched Dates: a first-of-its-kind feature that provides clarity and focus by moving members’ most important connections to a dedicated space within the app.  

Here’s how it works:

When you and a member reach a promising point in a conversation, we’ll ask if you’re ready to take the next step via an in-app prompt. If you both say yes, you’ll be moved to Dates.

Once a conversation moves to Dates, you’ll not only have a better idea of how that member feels about you – buh-bye, guessing games – but you’ll be able to better focus on that conversation – adios, cluttered inbox!

This new section also allows you to access unlimited video chat and discover each other’s first date preferences. From social distancing practices to favorite restaurants, you’ll have all the personal information you need to plan an actual date. Because after all, isn’t that what you came here for?

 Skip playing games and get to the good stuff faster with Dates.

Skip the small talk with #RealTalk

A lot has changed in 2020, and the way singles are connecting is no exception. Today, singles are exchanging 40% more messages compared to last year, but how often they’re talking is not the only change we’ve noticed.

Singles are now starting more meaningful conversations – covering topics like health, politics, religion, and sex and family  early on in the game. With this trend in mind, we recently launched #RealTalk: questions designed to help our members skip the boring banter and spark more meaningful conversations, helping singles get to know one another on a deeper level. That’s what they want, after all. And we have the numbers to prove it.

According to a recent survey of over 5,000 Match users:

  • 81% want to know more about a potential match’s stance on deeper topics before they can determine their potential 
  • 87% are more likely to move things forward after talking about more substantial topics
  • 61% would like support in moving from small talk to deeper conversations on a dating app

“All of a sudden, small talk just seems so insignificant,” says Rachel DeAlto, Chief Dating Expert at Match. “The world is facing real issues between the pandemic, social justice movements, and the election. Daters have recognized that this more significant and almost heavy energy is affecting every conversation. It doesn’t mean you can’t start with the weather or debating pour over versus drip coffee, but you won’t stay there long.”

Ready to get real? Add the latest Trending Topic to your profile and see where your next conversation takes you.

Introducing: Date Check-In

Feeling safe is a priority for our members, and our new in-app feature was designed with just that in mind. Introducing Date Check-In: an automated message that helps keep your friends and family informed while you’re on a date.

Gone are the days of having to text all your best friends individually every time you plan a new date (we’ve all done it!). With Date Check-In, you simply give us the details and we handle the outreach, giving you more time to prep and pamper for the big day. And who doesn’t want that?

How it works:

It all starts with your trusted contacts. By selecting the Date Check-In icon (upper right corner of each Match conversation), you can opt-in and add a name and phone number for up to three friends or family members.

Once your trusted contacts agree to participate in Date Check-Ins via text, they will receive automatic updates when you schedule a date. This will include the day, time, location and name of the person with whom you’re going out with.

At the start of your date, Match will send you a text to see how things are going. If all is well, no need to respond. If at any point in the date you do feel uncomfortable, you can reply YES, alerting us to notify your trusted contacts immediately.

Date Check-In is the first of many features we’ll be rolling out as part of our evolving Safety Center. Stay tuned!

Reminder: Date Check-In is not a replacement for emergency services, nor a replacement for using your best judgement. If you ever feel you are in immediate danger or need emergency assistance, dial 911 immediately.

As always, you can opt out of using the Date Check-In feature at any time by sending a text with the word STOP. Replying STOP will cancel all of your check-ins, and remove you if you are serving as a trusted contact for anyone else.

Match’s Most Eligible Valentines

Still looking for a Valentine? Whether you’re searching for fit and flawless or you’re all about the personality, these eight eligible bachelors and bachelorettes will show you some l-o-v-e just in time for Cupid’s favorite holiday.

Let’s meet the babes:

Jackson aka Mr. GQ

Do we really need to explain the nickname? I mean…look at that face. While he’s mastered all the model facials – smoldering, suspicious, you name it – he’s usually all smiles. At just eight months old and 55 pounds, he still has a little growing up to do (don’t all men?) and just wants someone to be silly with along the way.  

View Jackson’s profile

Demi aka Netflix & Chill (in the good way)

This 10-pound female chihuahua is the perfect mate for anyone into really big…ears! While she’s only one year old, she has mastered the art of relaxation, making her the dream companion for binging that new documentary. (Yes, Netflix, we’re stillll watching…)

View Demi’s profile

Zoe aka Little Spoon

If you’re one of those bizarre singles who doesn’t like to cuddle, this ain’t ya girl. This 65-pound sweetheart loves to snuggle up after a long day of work or play. She’s also a great walking companion as her little legs and affectionate spirit are always turning heads.

View Zoe’s profile

Jimbo aka The Jock

Jimbo is like the football player you had a crush on in high school, but with a wayyy better personality. He’s two years old and the perfect partner for long runs, hikes or just throwing the ball in the yard. His upbeat attitude and silly spunk will always make you smile.

View Jimbo’s profile

Tyga aka Teddy Bear

If the big warm teddy bear is your type, look no further. Tyga is 80 pounds, four years old and has plenty of love to share. He’s also the perfect guy to introduce your parents and friends to – no really, he gets along with everyone.

View Tyga’s profile

Dizzy aka Mr. Dependable

No matter what kind of day you’ve had, you’ll love going home to this handsome hunk of love. At 83 pounds, Dizzy is the perfect protector, but loves to be silly too. He’s always ready for a walk or a good belly rub (aren’t we all?) and is looking for a stable partner to provide him both.

View Dizzy’s profile

Bernice aka Down for Whateva

Bernice is one of those babes who prides herself on being low maintenance. Whether you want to explore the open road, pick up new friends at the park or just kick it on the couch, she’s game for anything. She doesn’t let her past get in the way (no ex bashing here!) and is ready for a new partner in crime to enjoy the future with.

View Bernice’s profile

Allie aka Sugar Mama

Sweet and sophisticated with plenty of skills, Allie is pretty much everyone’s type – so better keep an eye on your friends around her. She loves meeting new people, long walks on the beach (or the street) and sharing her love. And what’s better than that?   

Ready to match with one of these cuties? You’re in luck. All are currently available for adoption through Wags & Walks, an LA-based adoption center dedicated to helping rescue dogs find their forever homes. 

The 5 Best Travel Practices For New Couples

With 2020 in the rearview mirror and summer upon us, it’s safe to say the travel bug has bit us all. Singles are no exception. After feeling like a year of their life was ripped away, they’re ready to make up for lost time. And for many, that means exploring somewhere new with someone new.

This isn’t a new concept though. Many singles talking to members in another city or state use trips to meet each other in person for the first time. While this makes sense from a geographic and logistics perspective – especially if meeting halfway between their two homes – it’s a step that shouldn’t be treaded lightly.

Meet Match’s Dating Expert: Ilissa

“When you travel with someone, you quickly get to know their quirks and habits. So, the stakes can feel much higher when you’re dating that person. Traveling is a great way to determine compatibility and see new sides of your partner, which can be exciting and even a little scary. Think of your first trip as a test run for the future. An easy way to take some of the pressure off is to be sure you’re prepared.”

After all, according to a recent Instagram survey conducted by Rachel DeAlto, Match’s Chief Dating Expert, 25% of participants have experienced a breakup as a result of traveling together.

The 5 best travel practices for new couples.

1. Keep the trip to 3 days or less

Seriously. Even if you have no doubt it will be a success, keep that first getaway to a long weekend. That way if things don’t turn out like you planned, you’re not stuck somewhere uncomfortable for a long period of time.

2. Discuss intimacy expectations

This was ranked as the most important rule to follow when traveling with someone for the first time. Setting boundaries and expectations in advance – like deciding if you’ll share a room – will help ensure there are no awkward moments or disappointments that could kill the vacation’s vibe.

3. Set a budget

Given that finances are one of the top causes for arguments among couples, we have to call this out. Discussing what you both feel comfortable spending and who will be responsible for what, will take a lot of stress out of the experience. Plus, you can plan ahead and know what to expect.  

4. Consider going with a group

This can be a great way to take the pressure off. Just make sure the friends or family you bring along gel with one another. That way, if you do want to sneak off for a little alone time, they won’t mind.

5. Go in with realistic expectations

Let’s be real, the trip won’t be perfect. Whether flights are delayed, luggage gets lost, or experiences get rained out, there are bound to be bumps in the road. Remember to be flexible and don’t let minor inconveniences kill your spirit. After all, you’re showing them how you’ll handle future conflicts.

How soon to book your first getaway?

Knowing when you’re ready to travel together is different for every relationship. That being said, 53% of Instagram participants said going anywhere after only knowing each other for a few weeks was too soon. Our Dating Experts recommend waiting three months before taking your relationship on the road.

Happy travels!

When should you follow up for that second date?

Many Americans pressed pause on in-person dates this past year. But with cities relaxing regulations, vaccinations being administered & hope being restored, more Americans are returning to their regular date routines every day. And it feels sooo good. That said, not even a pandemic could put to bed some of those age-old dating questions.

Meet Match’s Dating Expert: Sean

With a background in marketing & performing arts, Sean has extensive insight on how to present your best self, whether in front of a crowd or on a first date. As a veteran Dating Expert, he works tirelessly to ensure everyone is on a path to relationship success.

Q: When should I expect someone to follow up for a second date?

A: It’s important to keep in mind that everyone has different ideas of what a perfect first date looks like. I always say that if you enjoyed the first date, then you should bring up the idea of a second date 24 hours after your first to see what they say. If you’re waiting for the other person to follow up for a second date, then I would be patient & wait about 3 to 5 days. If they still haven’t brought it up, take the initiative & bring it up yourself so you know whether or not it will work out.

Q: I often feel like a date goes well, but don’t hear anything after. What signals should I look for to confirm they’re feeling the same way?

A:  Exchanging laughter, smiles & stories is always a good sign. If they bring up future plans with you, that’s another reassuring sign that they’re thinking ahead. Remember, communication is key. If you don’t hear anything after the date, take the initiative to follow up & ask if they would be open to a second date. This is always better than waiting around and wondering.

Q:  I’m waiting for that “when you know, you know” moment after a first date & not having it. Why?

A: I totally get what you mean! First dates aren’t always going to be like the movies, so you have to set realistic expectations. Also understand that your date may be nervous or have other things going on in their life. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If you didn’t have that “when you know, you know” moment but you feel like there is potential, maybe that second date will turn things around. If you still haven’t had that moment, then it’s okay to search for someone else.

For the Love of Music

Music plays a powerful role in relationships. Hearing a song on a first date can spark an instant connection. Lyrics can help you articulate emotions when you can’t find the words. And putting on the perfect playlist can set the mood for a chill evening in. 

With live music put on hold this past year, we wanted to do something this Valentine’s Day to show our love for music. We’re releasing an exclusive playlist curated by NIVA, the National Independent Venue Association, to help showcase Texas artists and bring back the music. Called Texas Love Songs, the playlist features 50 love songs and gives singles, festival-goers, and everyone in between the chance to explore new artists during this season of love. 

Why Texas? Texas has been our home for more than 20 years, and in a state famous for authentic voices and big emotions, it’s a perfect time to honor these great Texas love songs.

Match is also proud to be supporting NIVA with a donation of up to $50,000. We will be donating $25,000 and we will match an additional $25,000 through February 28th, to reach a total goal of $75,000. With the pandemic threatening the future of live music, NIVA is working to preserve local venues through critical funding — making sure artists have a stage to return to when the pandemic is over. 


Forget the flowers and chocolates this year, and give your date the gift of music. Donate here: https://www.nivassoc.org/donate.

Lockdown…A Time For Love?

By: Helen Fisher

We weren’t built to live 24/7 with a lover.  For millions of years men regularly set off to hunt, sometimes for days.  And women went gathering and often visited friends or family in another camp for weeks.  We are a nomadic species—built to leave home regularly for adventures of all kinds.  So being cooped up during this pandemic requires resourcefulness, particularly if you are single and used to stepping out. 

    Oddly, however—this nasty virus has given you some perks: foremost, time to date.  Even if you are working at home, you won’t be dressing, commuting or meeting friends after office hours. 

    And you have something meaningful to talk about: this disease.  The chit-chat of most first meetings is gone; instead you are inclined to trade stories of fear and hope.  This self-disclosure spurs intimacy, love and commitment.  (And psychologists report that men are just as likely to reveal their innermost feelings as women).  So during this lockdown, you might get to know vital things about a potential partner fast.  That’s a plus.

     Moreover, sex is, at least temporarily, out.  When you meet in person, you’re obliged to navigate this nether world.  “Do I kiss him?”  “Should I take her hand?”  “What do I do if they invite me back to their pad?” You might have some sexy conversations…but real sex is of the table.

      Money is off the table too.  On a regular first date, you are required to negotiate who pays: “Should we meet in a cheap café or an expensive bar?”  “Should I offer to split the bill?”  Nope: who pays is history.

     And fortunately, you have a new tool for courting: video chatting.  From data collected on 6,004 Match members over the weekend of April 12, only 6% said that they used video chatting before Covid-19 hit.  Now 69% of these singles are open to video chatting with a potential partner.  And a third already have someone with whom they’d like to talk via video.  

But when using this technology, I recommend you do two things: 

Foremost: after you have actually seen and talked with nine potential partners, stop.   And get to know at least one of these people better. The brain is not well-built to absorb a host of options.  Indeed, about nine is max.  Then we burn out; faced with too many alternatives we choose none. Moreover, the more you get to know someone, the more you are inclined to like them.   

     Second: think of reasons to say “yes.”  The brain is designed to remember the negative, not the positive.  Forget that he likes cats and you like dogs.  Focus on what you do like about him or her.  But remember: these are not dating apps—they’re introducing apps.  The only real algorithm is your own brain.  You must ‘show up’ for these video chats.

      Oddly, video chatting has another benefit: it’s slowing down the courtship process—accelerating a current trend I call Slow Love.  And data shows that the longer you court and the later you marry, the more likely you are to build a happy long-term partnership.  In fact, I’ve come to realize, (from my brain scanning studies), that romantic love can be sparked instantly; but feelings of trust and attachment take time to develop. 

      So this pandemic has created a new stage in the courtship process: video chatting.  And I think it will continue after this lockdown ends.  Why? Because it has some genuine benefits: With video chatting, not only can you weed out non-starters before you meet in person—enabling you to save time and money, as well as kiss fewer frogs.  But you can get to know potential partners more slowly, a natural process in the brain that builds trust and attachment.  Now’s a perfect time to let Cupid do his job.

Everything you need to know about Vibe Check

Tried Vibe Check yet? Our latest video chat feature recently launched, fueling members’ cravings to chat and see someone live right in the app. Learn the ins and outs of how it works: 

Who can I Vibe Check with?

You can Vibe Check with any eligible Match member in the app and on desktop. To be eligible, a member simply needs to accept the community terms and conditions. You also must have each sent a message or a like to each other. 

Where can I find Vibe Check within the app?

You can find the feature in your message view from Inbox. Look for the black video icon at the bottom left corner, next to the message bar. 

Is Vibe Check free?

Yes! We know everyone is missing out on social interactions right now, so we’ve made this feature free for all Match members. All you have to do is be in a conversation with someone.

How do you initiate Vibe Check?

It’s easy! All you have to do is tap on the video icon in your message view with another member.

Will Vibe Check be offered after stay-at-home orders are lifted? 

Yes! While this feature is great for staying connected while social distancing, there are other benefits to initiating a Vibe Check. For example, before meeting up with someone in person. We know going on an in-person date requires time, money and effort. A quick Vibe Check is a great way to assure you click before making plans to meet face-to-face. 

Is there a time limit on how long you can Vibe Check with someone?

Nope, no time limit! Feel free to chat as long or as little as you feel comfortable. 

Can you deny a Vibe Check?

Absolutely. It works just like a phone call. You can accept or decline any incoming Vibe Check. 

Is Vibe Check available on the Match app?

Vibe Check is available on iOS and Android, as well as desktop. 

Can I Vibe Check more than once with the same person?

Absolutely! You can Vibe Check as many times as you want with someone. In fact, we think this is a great (and safe) way to get to know someone before exchanging phone numbers or meeting in person. 

What if I experience something inappropriate during a Vibe Check call? What do I do?

We hope that our members are respectful towards one another and follow the rules, but we know things can happen. If you do experience any inappropriate behavior, there are two ways to report it:  

  • You can tap on the Report button on the bottom left hand corner of the call screen. This will immediately end the call and block the user from being able to see or contact you. You’ll then be prompted to provide details that will be sent directly to our Care team. 
  • After the call, you can go to the member’s profile, tap on the three dots at the top right and select “Report.” You’ll then be prompted to provide details that will be sent directly to our Care team. 

I don’t want just anyone on Match to be able to video chat with me. Can I opt out?

It’s important to note that the only members allowed to video chat with you are ones you’ve previously matched with (i.e. you’ve both exchanged likes and/or messages). So rest assured you won’t be getting Vibe Checks from any random faces. If you’re still not interested in video chatting with your matches, we’ll be allowing you to opt out of the feature entirely in the next few weeks. Stay tuned! 

So what are you waiting for? Now that you’ve got all the details, it’s time to get vibing! 

Vibe Check is available on desktop and the Match app. Make sure you have the latest version of the app for your iOS or Android device. 

Introducing Vibe Check: Video date on the Match app

Missing that face-to-face connection during social distancing? You know…the smiles, smirks, and let’s not forget, the laughter. Swap out your emojis and LOLs for actual laughs when you try Vibe Check: our new video feature that lets you chat and see someone live right on Match.  

How it works:

Once you’ve matched and started a conversation with someone, a black video icon will appear at the top right of your messages. After agreeing to the terms and conditions, you’ll be able to request a Vibe Check. The other member can either join right away or decline the request if it’s not a good time. Be sure to enable push notifications in order to receive Vibe Check invites.

During the Vibe Check, you can video chat as long as you want, and hang up whenever you’d like.

Vibe Safe

All the communication is done through Match, so you can see if your personalities vibe before exchanging phone numbers or other personal information.

If a member breaks any of our rules during the Vibe Check (i.e. nudity, harassment, violence, etc.), you can report them immediately. We’ll then block that user from being able to contact you, and ask you to provide some details for customer care.

So, what are you waiting for? Take your dating life out of quarantine by trying Vibe Check today.  

Vibe Check is available on desktop and the Match app. Make sure you have the latest version of the app for your iOS or Android device. 

Tips from a Long-Distance Relationship Survivor

By: Stefnie Howley

COVID-19 has caused havoc in every aspect of life, and relationships are no exception. While some couples are getting used to being with their partner 24/7 (buh-bye privacy!), others are adjusting to the exact opposite.

As a Certified Dating Expert at Match, I can provide lots of advice on dealing with separation from a significant other. But my best tips come from firsthand experience.

When I first met my husband, he was in the Navy and I was working for a company that had me traveling a minimum of 16 days every month. For the first two years, we spent more time apart than together. Here’s what I learned:

1. Communication is key. It may sound cliché, but communication is now more important than ever. Lucky for you, there are also more ways to communicate than ever. In addition to the good ole-fashioned call, email and text, you can send videos and photos, or just hop on FaceTime or Skype.

Another important note: Don’t jump to conclusions if the person doesn’t respond right away, or in the way you were expecting. This is where knowing your partner’s communication style can also help. Some have no trouble spilling their heart via text, while others need to be face-to-face to feel comfortable.

2. Set expectations. Speaking of communication, it’s important to be clear on your expectations for it. Maybe you establish that one of you always calls or texts before bed, or first thing in the morning. Or maybe you establish a system where if you call two times in a row, it’s an emergency. Whatever it is, don’t make it a guessing game.

3. Know each other’s love language. Heard of the 5 Love Languages? If not, this would be a fun quiz for you and your partner to do together. Knowing whether someone craves words of affirmation, gifts or acts of service is an easy way to ensure you’re showing the love they’re looking for from far away.  

4. Get creative. Despite your current distance, there are still plenty of ways to feel connected. And we’re not just talking about hopping on FaceTime. Buy the same puzzle and have a race to see who can finish first. Try a new recipe and have a cook-off in your respective kitchens. Exchange playlists to keep each other company. You can even go old school by sending a handwritten card or letter. Whatever you do, don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone a bit.

Need more tips, or have a specific question about #DatingWhileDistancing? Ask one of our certified Dating Experts, and see what other advice they’re sharing with fellow singles today.

Upgrade Your Virtual Dates

By: Katie Wilson

Struggling to find conversation starters now that, “what are you up to this weekend?” is a no-go? We don’t blame you. Dating while distancing is going to require you to rethink your go-to lines and your upcoming date plans. But fear not!

We’ve spent the last week talking to singles to get the inside scoop on what’s working and what’s not. The key to virtual dating is keeping momentum going and getting creative. See below for a list of conversation tips and virtual date ideas that will set you apart from the rest.

Conversation Tips:

  • Keep it positive. We know it’s tempting given the state of the world right now, but no need to dwell on heavy or negative topics right out the gate.
  • Stay away from politics. Everyone is feeling especially politically charged right now, and while politics are important, we recommend broaching it after you’ve established a connection.
  • Come up with fresh conversation starters in advance. Everyone will naturally have less to talk about due to staying in, so take initiative and come prepared with some fresh conversation topics. Favorite thing about staying in, best new show on Netflix, new favorite recipe…it’s all fair game!  

Virtual Dating Ideas:

  • Download an interactive game and play together. Winner buys dinner on your next IRL date?
  • Share your favorite things. Grab a few of your favorite items from around your house and share why you love them so much. (Pssst…this might be the time to leave your favorite stuffed animal from childhood in the box.)
  • Paint and wine night. Agree on a subject to paint, crack open a bottle of wine and get to work. Prepare for spilled paint and lots of laughs.
  • Introduce one another to your respective pets. Because who doesn’t want to show off their favorite furry friend?
  • Compare travel bucket lists. Bonus points if you trade photos of some of the places on your list.
  • Share a tour of your home. If you feel comfortable, this is the perfect time to show off that space you’ve been cleaning and organizing while stuck inside.  
  • Go on a virtual tour of a zoo together. No seriously, these exist!
  • Take a virtual yoga class together. Yes, these exist too. And those who sweat together, stay together, right?

Got a specific question about #DatingWhileDistancing? Ask one of our certified Dating Experts, and see what other advice they’re sharing with fellow singles today.